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Just a little note, thank you all for the outpouring support. At the moment I do not have a bank account that can not be drained by my parents, and I'm not educated on how I can get one as a minor, so the offers of money are greatly appreciated but I am unable to get it.

I have an overwhelming amount of messages, so I'm sorry if I can't respond or take forever to do so I'm trying my best to sort out what the best route for me to take right now is.

Me and the dogs are fine for now. We have gotten a few dollars and some food by sitting outside the hotel/McDonald's.

Once again, thank you all for the support, encouragement and love.

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You got what you deserved for being a sexual degenerate

Christians showing that love again.

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Right, that was hilarious to me. Like thanks for proving my parents are amazing people.

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If y'all saw my last post, I still have no where to go. I've been staying in my car with my two dogs, in a parking lot of McDonald's during the day. I stay in the parking lot of a hotel during the night. I've gone in for water for the pups and myself, plus I have free wifi and no one really questions me if I stay around for awhile. I haven't gone in today because I'm only 16 and I don't want people asking why I'm not in school, plus it's hot and I don't want to leave the dogs in the car too long.

Atm I'm in a more seedy place of town. Last night I was putting down the seats (I have an older GMC) so we could sleep in the trunk and stretch out. I had gone to the dollar tree and bought blankets for us so we have a place in the back to sleep. A dude who was obviously drunk stumbled up to us and right off the bat I got nervous. I had parked in the very back to avoid interactions like this. Anyways, I don't know wether he had ill intent or what, but I asked for him to leave. He didn't hear me and said "what did you say little girl" while moving closer. I immediately turned towards him, I didn't want my back facing him, and blocked my car, repeating what I said. The dogs had been pretty quiet at this point, but idk if my oldest dog picked up on my tone or what but she slowly started growling at him. The puppy raised his hackles and he also shoved his head over my shoulder to look at the guy. The dude immediately put his hands up and apologized and left. My dogs were on edge for the rest of the night, getting up to look out the windows and huffing at people who passed.

I didn't know where else to share this, I'm just proud of them and glad that at least someone has my back. These dogs will protect me, and last night proved it. I may be in a shitty situation, but it could be worse.

How do you guys manage security and protection?

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You can get food for your dogs and vet care through www.petsofthehomeless.org if you put your town and state it will tell you where dropoffs are for the pet food. You can also call them their number is there under contact us they are in nevada so need to figure time difference. They have resources for you too. I would also call 211 and see what help there is for underage minors with no parent. They can usually help with lodging, school, food etc.. I hate to see someone so young living like this as I have a 16 yr old and 18 yr old makes me sad. If you have a place to pick up packages you can also post in r/randomactsofpetfood for the dogs and either r/assistance or r/Food_Pantry for food for you. Just make an amazon wishlist with prime items and people will send to you. Maybe ask someone you trust if they can receive packages. Good luck and hope others can come up with safer alternatives and help for you.

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Original Poster5 points · 7 days ago

Thank you so much for this information. I'll look into it.

May I ask what state/area you’re in? Glad to hear you’re safe.

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Original Poster1 point · 7 days ago

Tennessee

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I had posted this on other subs and was told to post here. 16f.

Three nights ago my parents and I got in a huge fight. I am not a Christian. They are extreme bible thumpers. I am bisexual, they believe I'm going to be burning in hell. I was forced to come out of the closet due to blackmail reasons, and my parents promptly kicked me out.

I managed to get my dogs and my keys, took my car and left. We just moved to this state so I have no friends. My siblings all have the same beliefs as my parents. My related family is all thousands of miles away. Last night, my parents cut off my phone plan and told me they're kicking me off of their insurance. Right now I am on my own with my two large dogs, pitbull and American bulldog, sleeping in my car. My parents forced me to quit my job last week so I could focus more on school. Last night I checked my bank account. My parents drained the 1k savings I had in it. It is completely empty.

I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. I primarily want to be able to take care of my dogs. I do not want to give them up but I'm not sure how much longer I can without neglecting them. Giving them up would be out of absolute desperation. I will not give up on them easily. Having them around has protected me from many bad situations.

I live in Tennessee. Any advice would be helpful.

I also do not want to return home. My mother is abusive. DCS has seen physical evidence of abuse (black eye, bloody scratch marks, bruises) and placed me back in the home. They are useless.

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210 points · 7 days ago

Can you call your family in the other state and arrange for them to meet you? Go live with them? Maybe they can venmo you gas money....

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Original Poster309 points · 7 days ago

My parents told everyone I am lying and fine with them. They have drained all my savings. Any money that goes into my account will be taken by them.

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hey guys. throw away for obvious reasons. 16f.

Two nights ago my parents and I got in a huge fight. I am not a Christian. They are extreme bible thumpers. I am bisexual, they believe I'm going to be burning in hell. I was forced to come out of the closet due to blackmail reasons, and my parents promptly kicked me out.

I managed to get my dogs and my keys, took my car and left. We just moved to this state so I have no friends. My siblings all have the same beliefs as my parents. My related family is all thousands of miles away. Last night, my parents cut off my phone plan and told me they're kicking me off of their insurance. Right now I am sitting outside of a library with my two large dogs, pitbull and American bulldog. We have been sleeping here in the parking lot in my car bc they have free wifi and I'm afraid to drive it without insurance. I only have twenty dollars left, and I need to be able to feed both my dogs and myself. I have no clue where to go. My parents forced me to quit my job last week so i could focus more on school.

Does anyone know of any resources I can take advantage of, where my age won't be a problem?

I do not and will not turn to the law. DCS has gotten involved last year because my mother gave me a black eye. They returned me to my house that same night. They do not care about my well being at all. They stared at blatant evidence of abuse, but chose to believe my mother's loose lie about me doing it myself because it was more convenient.

I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. I primarily want to be able to take care of my dogs. I do not want to give them up but I'm not sure how much longer I can without neglecting them

Edit: I am located in Tennessee.

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Gaaaahhhhh this makes me so angry that this is happening to you.

I know you don’t want to hear this probably BUT it would be a good idea to tell a trusted teacher as soon as you can. They should call DCS and even though they screwed you over before that’s very different than if you have been kicked out and are not allowed to go home. That is illegal. Your parents have committed a crime. DCS should be aware for WHEN this happens to your other siblings (not if) AND should connect you with resources. You should not be expected to take care of yourself and even if you could, it’s illogical to expect you to with no warning.

If you have relatives thousands of miles away BUT who might actually be willing to take you in and help you, reach out to them however you can. If you were my cousin or niece or grandkid I would 1,000% have you move in and stay with me, and I would pay for you to get here and get you back on track to being a teenager. Your relatives might too. That’s what DCS should be doing if you reach out to them, finding a relative willing to take you with whom you’d be safe. For one thing, relative can hopefully get you some money for food for yourself and your dogs and for gas for your car. (You shouldn’t be afraid to drive it without insurance right this moment as canceling a policy takes time and usually costs a cancellation fee, so it’s unlikely it’s been removed right away. In any case if the car is in their name, it’s their responsibility to insure it, not yours, so if anything happens to it even with you driving that’s on them. That said, if the car is in their name and not yours there’s a solid chance they will want it back or say you stole it...at which point when you finalize your plan it could be an option to leave it in a place it will get ticketed and towed because the person who will have to pay those fees is them...)

Your relatives if they are good probably would be willing to pay for a bus or train ticket to them. Usually bus or train tickets for 2,000 miles are $200-300 or so, which isn’t a crazy amount and if you feel guilty you could earn it later and pay it back without much issue. (If they are even further it’s only like $100ish more.) You can get on an Amtrak train without parental permission if you have your drivers license with you to prove your age, some private buses (like Greyhound) make you wait until you’re 17 but you can check their websites for their rules about minors. Download the apps for Amtrak and buses to check out. You can also switch to the public transit mode on Google Maps and it will show you train and bus options, both private and public. Ask your relatives to get you funds for a cheap by-the-minutes phone you can use instead of the phone plan your parents kicked you off of. Look for a prepaid phone like Tracfone. $50-70 would cover you for a month. If your name is on the car perhaps they could front you the money to get a policy of your own instead so you can drive it and money for gas. You can get a policy same day if you call or go online, that’s what happens for recent car sales all the time. If you do that and decide to drive the route, look for rest stops and truck stops to sleep in along the way (but don’t leave your vehicle after dark...go to a WalMart or Denny’s or IHOP instead).

Seriously, reach out to your relatives. I would want you to reach out to me and I would make a place for you. No matter how far away you are. If your relatives take you in and report your parents to DCS after the fact, they can even get the court to compel your parents to pay child support so they are less burdened taking you in.

That said, the dogs complicate the situation even though I’m sure they are very comforting for you to have. If you do go to your relatives using public transit you probably can’t take them, so you’ll probably want to get them to a good home. See if there’s a rescue near you for the breed they are, rescues usually keep or foster dogs long term until they have good homes unlike animal control. They are usually run by volunteers who are animal lovers with a whole pack of friends for your pups.

If you have to stick around your home a while or make use of the LGBT resources in your area suggested by other comments instead, check your old job and see if they will take you back. Your parents forced you to leave it, but maybe if you tell your job you spoke to them and the situation changed and you’d love to work again (all true) they’d have you back again. Then just tell them you need paychecks in person and take them to any bank with your ID to cash them. Don’t put them in a bank account, any account you have right now will have your parents on it which means they can legally drain it even though it’s your money.

Good luck. I know it seems hopeless but it gets better. You can do this.

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Original Poster1 point · 7 days ago

Thank you for that advice. I've been trying to come up with a plan but it's hard. I had 1k in savings in my bank account, but like you said, my parents already drained all of it and took it for themselves.

Were you able to contact your relatives or LGBT resources?

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Original Poster1 point · 7 days ago

Relatives don't believe me, parents told them I'm lying. I have yet to reach out to the resources, still nervous

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I had posted this on r/homeless and was told to post here. 16f.

Two nights ago my parents and I got in a huge fight. I am not a Christian. They are extreme bible thumpers. I am bisexual, they believe I'm going to be burning in hell. I was forced to come out of the closet due to blackmail reasons, and my parents promptly kicked me out.

I managed to get my dogs and my keys, took my car and left. We just moved to this state so I have no friends. My siblings all have the same beliefs as my parents. My related family is all thousands of miles away. Last night, my parents cut off my phone plan and told me they're kicking me off of their insurance. Right now I am sitting outside of a library with my two large dogs, pitbull and American bulldog. We have been sleeping here in the parking lot in my car bc they have free wifi and I'm afraid to drive it without insurance. I only have twenty dollars left, and I need to be able to feed both my dogs and myself. I have no clue where to go. My parents forced me to quit my job last week so i could focus more on school.

Does anyone know of any resources I can take advantage of, where my age won't be a problem?

I do not and will not turn to the law. DCS and CPS has gotten involved last year because my mother gave me a black eye. They returned me to my house that same night. They do not care about my well being at all. They stared at blatant evidence of abuse, but chose to believe my mother's loose lie about me doing it myself because it was more convenient.

I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. I primarily want to be able to take care of my dogs. I do not want to give them up but I'm not sure how much longer I can without neglecting them

Side note, I'm not going to be able to attend school until I find a place to safety store my dogs. The weather is hot and they can not stay in my car for 7 hours while I am in class.

Edit: I am located in Tennessee

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Set up a go fund me account and post the link here. Post the link to as many lgbtq support group/chat sites as possible. You’ll find some financial support in the short term. Don’t give too much info about you’re location in the meantime. There are a lot of predators out there

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Original Poster2 points · 8 days ago

My parents have completely drained my bank account of all savings and keep taking money I've gotten in there. My brother sent me 20 bucks and my parents immediately withdrew it, so I have no way of getting money.

Where in TN? I'm near Knoxville

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Original Poster2 points · 8 days ago

I live in knox

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hey guys. throw away for obvious reasons. 16f.

Two nights ago my parents and I got in a huge fight. I am not a Christian. They are extreme bible thumpers. I am bisexual, they believe I'm going to be burning in hell. I was forced to come out of the closet due to blackmail reasons, and my parents promptly kicked me out.

I managed to get my dogs and my keys, took my car and left. We just moved to this state so I have no friends. My siblings all have the same beliefs as my parents. My related family is all thousands of miles away. Last night, my parents cut off my phone plan and told me they're kicking me off of their insurance. Right now I am sitting outside of a library with my two large dogs, pitbull and American bulldog. We have been sleeping here in the parking lot in my car bc they have free wifi and I'm afraid to drive it without insurance. I only have twenty dollars left, and I need to be able to feed both my dogs and myself. I have no clue where to go. My parents forced me to quit my job last week so i could focus more on school.

Does anyone know of any resources I can take advantage of, where my age won't be a problem?

I do not and will not turn to the law. DCS has gotten involved last year because my mother gave me a black eye. They returned me to my house that same night. They do not care about my well being at all. They stared at blatant evidence of abuse, but chose to believe my mother's loose lie about me doing it myself because it was more convenient.

I'm just scared and don't know where to turn. I primarily want to be able to take care of my dogs. I do not want to give them up but I'm not sure how much longer I can without neglecting them.

Edit: I am located in Tennessee.

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Can you not turn to your former employer or school and explain what has happened?

People can be very understanding and helpful. I would never turn away a child who was in your position and that needed help, no matter what the circumstances.

I would find it impossible to believe that a school would simply turn their back on a homeless 16 year old student? No decent adult could sleep at night if they did that.

I can understand why you are jaded regarding law enforcement if that happened to you, but your experience then does not necessarily mean that every experience you have with the law will be as negative. There are good and bad people in all walks of life, so do keep that in mind. Be wary, but try not to make judgements about large groups of people, because that might just be cutting your nose off to spite your face and in your current situation, you need to keep an open mind.

The most important thing at the moment is to get yourself to a place of safety. A public place I would suggest, such as a 24 hour Mcdonalds unless a youth shelter is realistic for tonight. You won't "look" homeless, which is to your advantage for tonight in say, a McD's. If driving without insurance is not a felony, I would carefully drive there. If it IS a felony, that is more problematic. You don't want a felony on your record even if they get expunged at a certain age, I'm not sure on US law.

Get through tonight in a safe place and then definitely make contact with the school and your former employer tomorrow. You need to exhaust all possibilities. If you had a specific teacher at school, like a "form tutor", start with him/her.

Sad to say it, but I think the dogs will need to be taken to a shelter. It is for their own good as well as yours. Choose a "no-kill" shelter. They may come pick them up if you explain your predicament. Do this after you've secured something for yourself as the dogs provide a degree of protection for you for the moment.

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Original Poster3 points · 9 days ago · edited 9 days ago

Thank you for the advice. I am weary to contact my school because that will ultimately get the law involved. I'm going to do what you said and contact my employer, but I don't want to commit to the job if I'm going to quit when I find a stable place to stay, by attending school again.

Also, my dogs are pitbulls. No-kill shelters will house an animal for however many weeks and then transfer it to a kill shelter, keeping their no kill status by not doing the ethunizing themselves, where they will be put down if not adopted. Or, due to their breed and the amount of pitbulls shelters get, be put down on arrival. I am terrified of that happening. My dogs are basically the only family I have left at this point. My oldest pitbull is an amazing protection dog and has saved me from harm on many occasions. I know you are suggesting a rational idea, but I can't even fathom giving up the loves of my life.

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What state are you in? There are people here who are great at finding region specific resources, especially for minors.

It's going to be hard with your dogs, youth shelters probably won't take them, and if you're living in a hot area, you won't be able to leave them in the car while you work. Do you know any adults who might be willing to help you out a little with a place to stay every once in a while or maybe to leave your dogs in their yard while you work? Do you have any friends from school with parents who don't suck and hate gay people. [Edit: I saw you said you don't have any friends yet, even a loose acquaintance will do in this situation, start looking around your classmates, look for kids that seem NICE note these kids will probably not be cool, start looking for kids who seem to have good relationships with their parents, they will probably be more accepting] Ik it will feel like no one meets that criteria, it will feel like there's no one that you know well enough to ask for such a favour, but the reality of things are that there never will be, you just have to make a jump and put yourself out there and tell someone you need help. You also have to be careful because there will be adults who want to take advantage of you as well. But there are also people (like me) - who if they heard there was a 16 year old in their community who had been kicked out because of their sexuality - they would do whatever they can to support them even if they were a total stranger. If you're going to survive this, especially if you want to keep your dogs, you need to find those people.

You could also panhandle for dog food. There are lots of people who won't give homeless people cash but would be willing to go into a store and buy you a bag of dog food if they see you outside with a sign asking or something.


As for driving, you may have to drive without insurance, I know people who have done this for years out of desperation and not been caught. Just follow all traffic laws and DO NOT SPEED. Do not touch your phone while driving. Get out of the car and check your headlights etc before driving to avoid getting pulled over for a busted one, you won't be able to tell from inside the car if a light is out. If a cop seems to be tailing you they may be running your plates, don't freak out just keep driving normally and if you can casually pull into a gas station do it and pretend like you are getting gas.

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Original Poster6 points · 9 days ago

Thank you for the advice. It's going to be hard to search for people, especially because I will not be attending school until I find a place to put the dogs, but I will try my best to make connections, along with edit my post with a location.

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